What Happens After the Breaking Point?
In humanitarian work, we pride ourselves on resilience. We push through long hours, adapt to shifting demands, and carry burdens most people never see.
But every system, every person, has a breaking point. And in our sector, the question isn’t whether we’ll reach it …it’s what happens when we do.
Recognizing the Breaking Point
The breaking point doesn’t always arrive with dramatic collapse. Sometimes it’s slow and silent:
You stop caring about the work you once loved.
Small frustrations feel overwhelming.
You’re physically present but emotionally checked out.
Other times it’s sudden, a moment when the strain becomes unbearable, the final straw landing on top of years of cumulative weight.
What Comes Next
Crossing the breaking point can feel like failure. But in reality, it’s the body and mind’s way of forcing a pause that should have happened long before.
In the aftermath, people may experience:
Emotional numbness or detachment
Loss of confidence in their skills or purpose
Strained relationships with colleagues and loved ones
Feeling disconnected from values that once guided them
Questioning whether they can, or even want to, stay in the sector
The Risk of Rushing Recovery
Humanitarian cultures are wired for urgency. So the instinct, from organizations and from individuals, is often to “Bounce back quickly” and to “Push through and reset.” But rushing recovery is dangerous.
When we move too fast:
We bypass grief.
The losses, the betrayals, the moral injuries remain unprocessed.We repair nothing.
The wound is dressed, but the infection remains.We override the body’s warning system.
The nervous system doesn’t heal on a schedule; it needs safety and time.We recreate the exact conditions that led to the breaking point.
And we walk straight back into them unchanged.
Rushing isn't resilience, it's repetition.
If the recovery process is hurried, people return with thinner margins, reduced capacity, and deeper exhaustion. The next breaking point arrives faster, and hits harder.
A Path Toward Repair
Repair after the breaking point is possible, but it’s not linear, and it’s never a quick return to “how things were.” It requires:
1. Naming the harm
Not only the exhaustion, but the deeper fractures:
To trust
To values
To identity
To one’s sense of safety in the workplace
2. Identifying root causes
Ask:
What exactly broke?
What conditions made this possible?
What was I carrying that I shouldn’t have been carrying alone?
3. Not rushing into purpose
Purpose can be a powerful motivator, but also a way to avoid pain.
Reconnection should come slowly, at a pace that honors your nervous system, not the organization’s urgency.
4. Rebuilding capacity gradually
Capacity returns in layers:
First physical
Then emotional
Then cognitive
Then relational
Then purpose-driven
Trying to rebuild all of this at once is what causes collapse.
5. Re-establishing safety
Safety looks like:
Predictable rhythms
Supportive relationships
Clear boundaries
Workload that matches capacity
Permission to say “not yet”
Without safety, recovery cannot take root.
6. For organizations: creating space for real repair
Not:
A few days off
A temporary workload reduction
A “welcome back” email
But:
Honest conversations about what happened
Adjustments to workload and role clarity
Psychological safety
Leadership accountability
A culture that understands recovery is not a performance issue
Why This Matters for the Sector
Every breaking point is a signal. Ignoring these signals erodes the very foundations of humanitarian work: trust, humanity, and care. But when we treat them as moments for reckoning and renewal, we can build something more sustainable.
Holding space with care and solidarity…here’s to staying whole, together,
~ Kate
Thanks for reading The Olive Pages: Fieldnotes on care, clarity, and staying whole
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