Relational Repair Is System Change
When organizations talk about “system change,” the conversation often turns to policies, structures, and strategies. These matter, but they’re not the whole story.
Real, lasting change begins in the spaces between people. Without repairing broken relationships, no policy will stick, and no strategy will truly take root.
Why Relationships Are the Foundation
Humanitarian work is powered by trust: between colleagues, between leaders and teams, between organizations and communities. When that trust breaks — through conflict, betrayal, or neglect — the system itself starts to fracture.
You can have the best strategy in the world, but if trust is gone, the system will still fail.
What Relational Repair Looks Like
Relational repair isn’t about pretending harm never happened. It’s about:
Acknowledging the hurt and its impact.
Taking responsibility where harm has been caused.
Creating space for honest dialogue.
Committing to change that prevents repeat harm.
It’s slow work. It’s uncomfortable work. And it’s the work that makes every other change possible.
How Repair Becomes System Change
When organizations consistently repair relationships, several things happen:
Communication becomes more open and effective.
Staff feel safer raising concerns early, preventing bigger problems.
Decision-making becomes more collaborative and inclusive.
Policies and structures gain real legitimacy because they’re built on trust.
In other words, repaired relationships create the conditions for systems to function as they’re meant to.
The Cost of Skipping Repair
Too often, organizations try to “move on” without addressing harm. This can leave unspoken resentment, fractured teams, and deep cynicism. The result? New initiatives falter, because the people implementing them aren’t invested.
An Invitation to Leaders
If you want to lead system change, start by looking at the relationships around you. Ask:
Where has trust been broken?
What would repair require?
Am I willing to have the uncomfortable conversations that will move us forward?
Because without relational repair, system change is just a slogan.
Holding space with care and solidarity — here’s to staying whole, together,
~ Kate
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